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The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating by Andy Stanley | Book Review


Single? Looking for the “right person”? Thinking that if you met the “right person” everything would turn out “right”? Think again.

In The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the twenty-first century. Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic.

Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating challenges single Christ followers to step up and set a new standard for this generation!

My Thoughts

The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating is full of the stuff your parents didn’t tell you. The part of “the talk” that was never talked about. From the myth about finding Mr. or Ms. Right, through the true definition and design for love. Andy Stanley’s straight talk approach will shatter your perceptions and preconceived notions about love, sex, and dating in today’s world.

Drawing on his many years as a pastor of a burgeoning church, Andy Stanley has seen more than his fair share of relationship struggles. What he has noticed is a series of patterns among them all which seem to doom them to failure. In this book, Andy Stanley takes an very direct approach by presenting the facts, anecdotes, and pastoral advice aimed at breaking the cycle of broken relationships. He addresses our propensity for mistaking sexual capability with relationship compatibility, the falsehood that we can change the behaviors of others, the importance of preparing ourselves for the marriage, [for men] what it means to be a gentleman – not just a man, and finally a thorough definition of a love worth having and holding onto. This book is written for everyone (not just Christians) because the problems are universal, and the same is true for the the solutions.

I have been married for 12 years so you may wonder why I have chosen to read The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating.  I have two children, and the practice of arranged marriages are not longer in practice. I don’t expect my children to just wake up one day prepared for marriage. Instead,  I believe a clear definition of love and what to look for in a future spouse needs to be discussed in various ways as they mature. Another reason is that I volunteer at my local crisis pregnancy center, where I meet numerous young women who are often trapped in emotionally, physically, and spiritually draining, unrewarding relationships. This book is for is for them. Whether you are starting fresh or starting over this book is for you too.


**I received this book free as a member of the Family Christian Blogger program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Favorite Quotes


“Sexual compatibility is important. Real important. But sexual compatibility is not the litmus test for relational compatibility.”

“You can’t change another person for the better any more than that person can change you…If you’re in a relationship because you believe your right person is going to help you change, you’re wasting your most valuable resource: time. To put it bluntly, you’re wasting your life.”

“Romance is sustained by patience, kindness, humility and a short memory. While none of those things come naturally, every one of them is necessary.”

About the Author

Andy Stanley is the senior pastor of North Point Community Church, Buckhead Church, and Browns Bridge Community Church. He also founded North Point Ministries, which is a worldwide Christian organization.

One thought on “The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating by Andy Stanley | Book Review

  1. Fantastic review! I enjoy books like these because like you I’m already married, but find it really useful information concerning my children’s future. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! 🙂

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