Christian Non-Fiction

Keep It Shut by Karen Ehman | #BookReview


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Why I chose to read this book…

For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. James 3:7-8

My Thoughts

To the outside world, strangers, and casual acquaintances, I am not a talkative person. The complete opposite is true with those whom I feel most comfortable with – my family, friends, and bible study ladies. Unfortunately, if you spend enough time  in my inner circle you are bound to hear a few un-christian things spill from my lips. One such occasion happened three years ago and to this day that relationship has not fully recovered. If your words have ever bested you, if you’ve ever spoken without thinking, reacted out of anger, commented when you should have held your peace, or pounced on an opportunity to get a dig in (that should cover most of you)…then this book is for you.

In order to benefit fully from Karen Ehman’s book Keep It Shut: What To Say, How To Say It, And When To Say Nothing At All, you must be willing to undergo a little self-examination. Karen tells of her own tongue-taming battle before sharing biblical lessons from Joseph, Daniel, and even King Herod. Each story lends itself to an invaluable piece of advice that we can apply to our own conversations. Readers are asked to evaluate their daily intake of the Word (Luke 6:45), our motives for speaking, and our skills as listeners. Some of her best advice pertains to when to hold our tongue, what to share and what is gossip, and how to defuse heated verbal exchanges.

My copy of Keep It Shut is full of post-it flags marking quotations and tips I want to return to. The advice is biblically based, socially relevant, and has the potential to prevent future speech faux pas when you put them into practice. Women speak more words in a day than men (that’s a fact), so it stands to reason that women may need more help learning what to say, how to say it, and when to zip it! For this reason I highly recommend this book to Women’s Ministry groups and book clubs to read and discuss together. Ladies (and gentlemen) this book may be just what you need to improve the emotional climate in your home, to open the lines of communication in your family, and to prevent future meltdowns. I give Keep It Shut 5/5 stars.


I received this book free as a member of the BookLookBloggers review program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”


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“The Bible doesn’t separate the act of gossip from the person who does it. Gossip is something one is. It is a label. A label that sticks. And stinks.”

About the Author

Karen Ehman is a Proverbs 31 Ministries author and speaker, as well as a writer for their Encouragement For Today online devotions that reach over one million women daily. She has written seven books including the popular LET. IT. GO: How to Stop Running the Show & Start Walking in Faith. Married to her college sweetheart Todd, together they raise their three sometimes quarrelsome but mostly charming children in the boondocks of central Michigan. There she enjoys antique hunting, cheering for the Detroit Tigers, and feeding the many teens who gather around her kitchen island for a taste of Mama Karen’s cooking.



10 thoughts on “Keep It Shut by Karen Ehman | #BookReview

  1. I have a VERY hard time not speaking my mind. Sometimes I think my filter is broken! I hope to gain greater sensitivity by reading Keep It Shut.


  2. As a teacher, one of the best compliments I ever get is when students come back and tell me that they succeeded in high school and college because of my class.


  3. As a teacher, some of the best compliments I have ever received are when students come back and tell me they succeeded in high school and college because of what they learned in my class.


    1. This comment makes me smile! 🙂
      My mother-in-law was a kindergarten teacher for 32 years. People are always coming up to her in stores and restaurants with stories of how she impacted their lives.
      Teaching is a wonderful way to lead and inspire youth. Thank you for being an educator!


  4. I don’t know if it would really have been classified as a compliment but one of the nicest things anyone ever said to me was about my kids. I now have 5 boys and a little girl. I get so many negative comments, especially about having so many boys. People assume we just kept trying til we got a girl and it really upsets me. My boys were not failed attempts at a girl. They are incredible blessings that were very much planned and wanted. When I was pregnant with my 5th son, I was at the grocery store with my other 4 boys. I noticed an older woman kept looking at me and the kids. Finally she said “Do you know what you’re having?” I smiled and said. “yes, it’s another boy” and braced myself for another “Poor you!” or “Wow, ANOTHER boy?”. But instead, that sweet woman smiled and said, “Wow, what a blessing! The world needs more Godly men!”. I seriously almost started crying right in the middle of the grocery store. I smiled and said “thank you, we feel the same way.”. That woman had no idea how much I needed to hear something like that and will never know how her words uplifted me. I’m also really glad my boys were there to hear it as well.


    1. Belinda,

      I have a good friend who has been in a similar situation. We were visiting while our children were in swimming lessons when a young girl told her came and asked if she was really pregnant again and told her, “You have too many kids.” Certainly she was repeating what she had overheard but it was hurtful just the same. Like the stranger in your story, I spoke words of encouragement to my friend. She is a good and loving mother, but even more she recognizes that children are a gift from God.
      Today I’m praying blessings over you and your family!

      Thank you for taking time to share your heart.



  5. I struggle SO much with my words. Even when I am filling my mind with good books and positive music, and even Scripture, I struggle to let my words be filled with grace and truth. I am deeply convicted that our words reveal what is in our hearts! I’d love to read this book and hear from another woman who has learned to use her words for GOOD!


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